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~Fireside Alone Time~ By Rheannon

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~Fireside Alone Time~ By Rheannon

 

I just spent the last two days away at a lake camping with my husband.  It was beautiful.  This sweet Montana spot offered a glorious mountain lake that stretched far and wide, with water so clean and pure I could see what was beneath me.  The sand stretched for many yards under the clear water, giving the illusion that I was on an ocean getaway somewhere miles from home.

There wasn’t anyone else with us this time, just hubby and I.  To quote my song, “Off the Map Tonight,” there were “no cell phones; no street lights…up in a quiet little place where we can see the stars shine…” (Here’s a link for you to listen-  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdhMIzCKXyM )

Just beautiful.  Other campers enjoyed the area as we did, from their own campsite, and exchanged pleasantries with us in the mornings.  We ran into some fun folks who shared their love of craw-fishing with us, and we caught lots and lots of the lake dwelling crustaceans. What a blast!

At night, we would sit by the fire Jeremy had made, eat snacks and talk about life.  It’s really interesting what things come up in conversation when there is no one else around.  Just you and your spouse, or you and your friend or cousin, one on one.  Stuff starts coming up that you may have felt for a while but hadn’t really shared up till that moment.

Jeremy and I covered some good ground on what had been weighing on our hearts and minds lately.  I learned things I didn’t know about him, and he about me.  Alone time, by the fire.  I had no idea how important that time would be for us.

Do you need alone time with your spouse or with your friend, or with God?  ( lol- I’m sure we always need it!)  You may be surprised at what comes up when you take yourself out of your normal day to day routine and just get alone in conversation.  Healing, prayer, laughter…

I would encourage you to do just that!  Have some alone time with God, but also, have some alone time with your spouse or a friend.  Carry each other’s burdens, help sort through the stuff…

Galations 6:2  “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” NIV

Mark 12:30 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. … ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” NIV (paraphrase)

~Rheannon

 

~Nailing Time Management~ By Faith

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~Time Management~ By Faith

AAaahhh, time management…or as John Maxwell calls it, self-management, as we cannot manage time.

I’ve heard that a person can tell their priorities by how they spend their time and money.

So, how do you? Do you leave yourself margin or do you find yourself rushing and reacting all day? Do you carve out time for the things you value and that fill your cup or have you accepted the lie that you simply don’t have time for it?

Are you taking action each day towards the future that you want for yourself? If not, you’re not alone.

It is merely the top 5% of the world that lives with intention. That statistic can be daunting, but to me it is a spurring-on, what are those 5% of people willing to do and how can I join them.

Many of these thoughts were not even in my awareness until my Mary Kay business became part of my life. I am forever grateful for the life skills and personal growth I’ve experienced from my mentor Susan, and many, many others in this incredible company.

Even once they were in my awareness I really didn’t fully appreciate the value of these skills for a long time. If you are “letting yourself” be motivated by fear or obligation to change something in your life the cycle will lead to exhaustion and frustration and it won’t last.

To really make a lasting change we want to be coming from a place of choice and enthusiasm for the change we are excited to experience.

Once you know where you want to end up you can back up and make a plan and then implement that in your schedule. The trick is to honor an appointment you set with yourself (God time, quiet time, meditation, exercise, working an at home business, food prep etc.) as you would honor any other appointment. You show up to work regardless of whether you feel like it or not and it has a reward.

The first step is to figure out what “level 10 living” looks like for you in each area of life.

The second is to evaluate where you are now and how to get from A to B.

The third is to make a brain dump with every little errand, chore, task that’s swimming around in your mind right now. Write it all out.  Everything feels urgent to your brain.  There’s no way to prioritize without writing it down.

Step four, prioritize high, medium and low.  Ideally the tasks that are ‘low’ would be delegated. You could also put in categories such as ‘this week, this month, this quarter’.

Once you have your high and medium tasks you can then schedule them into your week and live out your day with intention!

I do this every Sunday in the same notebook so I never lose my list and can keep carrying it over.

How exciting is it to think of a future we want to be living in?!  The time will pass anyways, so we might as well be intentional about how we spend it.

Check these time management scriptures out!

Proverbs 6:6-8

“Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways and be wise. Without having any chief, officer, or ruler, she prepares her bread in the summer and gathers her food in harvest.”

Ecclesiastes 9:10 “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.”

You can do this!

~Faith Corpron

Independent Sales Director Mary Kay cosmetics

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~Walking with a Friend~By Rheannon

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~Walking with a Friend~By Rheannon

It’s hot out. Summer has hit Montana, and the sky is bright and blue nearly every day. What a wonderful season to be here!!

I like waking up to bright early sunrises and taking walks with my friend, Sarah. We have a spot we meet on occasion and take a spin around town for a couple miles before going our separate ways. 

Today we met in the usual spot, exchanged a hug and started our walk. We always have good or productive conversations when doing this. I think better out loud when I’m walking, for whatever reason. When things are on my mind, a walk is usually a good way to get them out!

Today, though, we walked and talked about light hearted things and crossed from this street to that, taking in the sunshine and summer air. 

Then I saw him. Barely really-a glance of his pale skin against the dark grass caught my attention for a brief moment. I almost didn’t see him lying there near an office building in the shade by a bush. 

He was tired, rubbing his eyes, and thin. I walked past as we continued talking. I didn’t get far. Feeling the Spirit of God smash into my soul, I turned around.  I didn’t have any money with me…I wasn’t sure what I was going to do. 

He lay there, trying to catch any rest he could, eyes closed, head resting on a blue backpack, arms and legs crossed. He didn’t see me. 

“Hi.” I said. He opened his eyes and peered up at me through tired lids and said hello. I asked him if he was ok. Disheartened, he said he just didn’t know what to do with his life…I could see he was sad and needed some encouragement. 

“Has anyone prayed for you?” I asked. 

“Sure,” he replied, and still laying in the grass extended his hand out to me. I took it, and we held hands in the same form as a handshake and I began to pray for him. 

I prayed that he would experience the peace and presence of God and that the love of God would come wash over him. That He would know God has not forgotten him…that he would experience God’s love and for God to care for all his needs. 

His lip quivered and he held back tears as God’s love did indeed wash over him. The man was receiving God’s heart for him as we said “amen.” 

He thanked me and showed me his cross necklace and tattoo after I asked him if he knew Jesus as his savior. He did. 

I didn’t have any money with me, but I had a nalgene of water and some snap peas for snacking. 

“Do you have any water or snacks?” I asked. 

“I don’t got nothin…”

“No water??”

“Nothin…”

I pulled my bag off my shoulder, handed him the snap peas, which he began to eat immediately and then pulled out my nalgene. I took off the purple clip I had on it, and key chain and asked him if he minded having a water bottle with floral print on it. 

“No I wouldn’t mind,” he told me. And I said, “then it’s all yours,” giving him the bottle. 

Sitting up, he thanked me again, told me the peas were good and with a smile, we parted company. 

Walks with friends can be really powerful things. I know today I was not only walking with Sarah, but with Jesus, as He guided our steps toward a man who needed food, water and hope. 

I would encourage you to walk with Jesus and be open to His hearts desire for your day. I was so close to missing that moment with this man and just walking by, but thank God, His Spirit wouldn’t let me. 

God’s heart is for people everywhere. In the workplace, in our families, in our churches, neighborhoods and on our streets. You have the chance to be the one who stops for them. Be the one, for the one. 

One by one our world can be changed, filled with God’s love and hope. Because of you, and walking with a Friend…

~Rheannon

~The Shovel and the Sword~ By Belinda

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~The Shovel and The Sword~ By Belinda

Do you ever feel like you’re just shoveling dirt from one place to the other? I am mom and I shovel dirt. I get up early in the morning, make breakfast, clean house, do laundry, prepare lunches, feed animals….all before 7:00 a.m. I failed to mention that somehow I also manage to take a shower, put on makeup and straighten my frizzy naturally curly hair…but that’s only if I have time. Some days I leave the house only to finish my makeup in the car. Then, I go to my job and do more shoveling for 8 or 9 hours a day. Then I rush home to make dinner, help with homework, do more laundry, clean toilets, feed the animals again and water the plants. It’s no wonder that by ten o’clock, I’m passed out on the couch, while whatever is on TV Land keeps me company. Then what happens at 5:30 the next morning?  I’m startled with the same song that’s been waking me every morning for the past year.  I get up and shovel more dirt; it’s like the movie Groundhog Day! This same routine becomes merely movement. There’s no momentum. There’s no real meaning. It’s only the monotony of the shovel and the dirt.

 

So what happens now? What happens when we’ve shoveled so much dirt that we’re standing in a hole? This point in our lives defines us; it sets a precedent for the future with two options. The least challenging, and very boring option is where we hold tight to the handle of our trusty shovel and keep on digging. (I’m reminded of Dory… “just keep swimming, keep on swimming, just keep swimming…”) The hole becomes so deep; we can’t easily escape. We may try to climb out, but the sides pull loose as we struggle. It may even rain, turning our nice comfy hole into a pit of quicksand. Does this all sound familiar?

 

Gideon was literally hiding in a wine press sifting wheat. His fear of the Midianites kept him from sifting wheat in the normal way, out in the open on top of the hill. He was afraid the enemy would see him, and steal his family’s food supply. For seven years, the Midianites ravaged villages and farms, taking all the food and leaving nothing for the Israelites. Gideon and his people forgot what miracles God performed for the Jewish nation. God saved them from the Egyptians, led them through the desert into the promised land. Yet even in their sin, the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon. Shockingly, the angel addressed Gideon as a mighty warrior!  Gideon wasn’t a mighty warrior but yet God called him that – God knew what He would do with Gideon…the man he would become…  Of course, there’s much more to the story beginning in Judges 6. But the bottom line is that Gideon acted in obedience to God and consequently celebrated victory over the Midianites.

 

So now what? Option two is definitely more difficult than option one. It requires faith. Here it is: THROW DOWN THE SHOVEL AND STOP DIGGING. Really? That’s it?

 

Nope, that’s not it.

 

You have to pick up a sword. You know, a sword that the knights of the round table would have used.  It’s not as easy to hold as a shovel. It takes two hands and determination to really wield it with any dignity. It calls for trust and obedience. It’s heavy and requires spiritual strength. The same characteristics that led Gideon to victory over the Midianites.  We are mighty warriors, not dirt shovelers. God has called ALL OF US to victory and has given us the tools to achieve it.

 

~Belinda

 

Belinda Jane is a musicianary, writer, speaker, teacher, coach and all around renaissance woman, who tackles life creatively, wanders down a road less traveled, and leaps beyond the ordinary to share the love of Christ with others.  Find more about Belinda Jane, her music ,and ministry at http://www.belindajanemusic.com.

~My Old Junk~ By Rheannon

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~My Old Junk~ By Rheannon

My mom is getting married and moving. I never thought that I would be so excited and so horrified at the same time. 

Excited for her new life, excited for her wedding and moving and everything!!! …horrified by how much junk I had hiding in various places at her house. 

It’s amazing what you can learn about yourself going through old boxes of your things. I have a book addiction. Boxes and boxes of them. I can’t really be mad at myself for that, can I? I have a goal of a some day Library in my forever home. Hence all the books…and VHS…

I also collect journals! I love paper and pens and pencils. There’s something about them that inspires me. Somehow, I seem to particularly enjoy writing in the first ten pages of them and then sticking them away someplace for myself to find in ten years. 

Such have been my adventures of late. Unpacking and repacking my old things. Hey, it’s kinda been fun-I discovered some clothes of mine, a great find! Til that is, I saw they had holes in them… 

Oh! Whyyyy do we hang on to old junk? What good does it do us really? It’s been more stressful finding a place for this stuff than it has been enjoyable. I have to ask myself, “do I really want this or need this?? Where will I put it for now or in the future?”

A lot of the things I am finding in these old boxes are being tossed or taken to thrift for someone who can actually do something with them. It’s taking a lot of my time, too. Thankfully, there are some gems in the lot. Sweet pictures and good memories and fun things. Still, if I could have seen into the future, I would have told myself that I didn’t need all these things I was about to stash away. 

What kind of old junk do you have holding you back? It may be time to go through it and ditch the stuff that isn’t going to do you a lick of good. Go ahead-be spiritual about it. 

~Rheannon

~Resting in God~ By Faith

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~Resting in God~ By Faith

 Exodus 14:14 (NIV) “The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

Learning to rest in God is a skill, I am grateful to say I am finally developing. For most of my life this has not been the case…usually I was taking on the happiness of others, the results in my business, financial stress, basically any and all of the burdens He never asked me to carry. This caused me to look into anti-anxiety medication at the age of 17, which might have helped temporarily, but would not solve the root of my issue – which really comes down to trust and surrender. Easier said than done, right?

I mean, I wouldn’t want to be irresponsible. Doesn’t my worry help me plan, or something??? What I’m learning is that there is a delicate balance. Joyce Meyer, a prolific speaker and powerful woman of God says, “If we do what we know to do, God will do what only He can do.”

Here are a couple of the tools that have been helping me bring this beyond my quiet time in the morning throughout my day –

First of all I start my morning with what’s called a ‘Miracle Morning’ a very good book by Hal Elrod. My meditation consists of me visualizing crawling into Jesus’s lap and laying my head on his chest.  He puts the robe of righteousness on me (it’s white silk in my mind) and I ask him to tell me what His thoughts are about me, after which I describe how it feels to be in this place of rest. It feels safe, secure and peaceful.  It feels like freedom, it feels like trust, it feels light and easy. It feels fun, it feels hopeful. I go on like this silently from that place for one minute if that’s all I have or for up to 10 minutes or more – Truly trying to “be there”.

Since I’ve been doing this for almost 2 months, I am working more than I ever have in my business and yet I feel as if I am able to rest in Him almost the entire time!  Focus on Him – be a shining light and trust that He will do the rest! I’ve also had amazing circumstances happen that could have never happened in my own power.

This is a gift that is freely given to us. It’s whether we take on the verse above (or any promises for that matter) and actually try to practically apply in our lives or just read it and feel comfort for that moment. I once heard James McDonald say, “If you start to worry, get on your knees – (literally if possible, mentally if not) and give him the burden, when you stand back up, pick up a promise relating to that circumstance. You can Google God’s promises about finances etc.to learn what He says.”

Another helpful thing to do is to write down a circumstance that may be causing you stress. On one side of the piece of paper you can write down everything that’s in your control with that circumstance. On the other side of the paper you can write down everything that is out of your control with that circumstance. You then focus all of your energy on doing only the things that you can control and surrendering the rest believing that the victory has already been won, and let yourself delight in Him!

Is this easy? No. It takes a lot of intention, pausing, and praying. But I believe eventually it will become a habit just as the old way of struggling was for me. It is so exciting to think of how much more productive we can be in our lives when we use even half the energy that we’ve been using to worry, stress about the past, or fear forward, and actually apply it to the things He would have us do today for His kingdom!

~Faith

 

~Allergy Season~ By Rheannon

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~Allergy Season~ By Rheannon

 

Well, allergy season has caught up with me again this year. I sit here in silence, nursing a glass scratched throat, thinking about multitasking.

 
There are a million things that I could have done today. So many more that I probably could’ve accomplished! But, I am also trying to heal my body because I have two rehearsals, two shows, a wedding to perform at, and Lion King the Children’s Musical to do vocal coaching at…this week! I certainly don’t have the time to be feeling sick!

 
I don’t know why the timing of this thing had to hit the way it did – but- I’m sure that I needed a little rest. Maybe my body knows that too, so the best way to set me down on the couch for a while is to put my voice on hold!

 
Every once in a while I think it’s a good thing to sit oneself down and think about the importance of rest. Unfortunately for me, half the time I spend thinking about it is when my body has given me a forced rest, as is the case today. However, I do find myself thankful for it.

 
God actually designed rest. Which, to a person like me, who is used to going 24/7, the concept does at times seem quite foreign. My friend Sarah is always reminding me to take a breather. “You need a day to just chill,” she tells me. And how right she is.

 
God even took a day off. The Supreme Ruler of all the world took a day off after He spent 6 days creating all that we see and know as the Earth and heavens. I don’t think it was because He was tired- God is indefatigable. I think it was so He could sit back and enjoy the “good” that He had just finished creating. It was almost like reflection time – time to smell the flowers!

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The word “rest” in Genesis chapter 2:2 can have a couple of meanings. It means to “desist from exertion,” to be “still” or to “celebrate”!  Celebrate?! Absolutely! Genesis records God seeing that everything He had made was good just verses before 2:2, in 1:31. Now that’s a reason to celebrate!

 
Tonight, if you are just needing a break, or a reminder to sit back, look at all God has done in your life, and celebrate, take a few minutes and just rest. Breathe in, breathe out. Let God take the stress and the pressure,  give Him all the thanks and praise you can muster.

 
~Rheannon

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~FOUL BALL!~ By Belinda

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~FOUL BALL~ By Belinda

 

 

I am notorious for being a klutz.  If accidents were looking, they’d find me. I am not kidding!  Let me just list some of the crazy things that have happened to me in the past month…

 

I hit a curb and blew out a tire

I tripped on the sidewalk outside my building and fell

I cut my hand while slicing onions

I broke a favorite coffee mug

I burned cookies—three times!

I burned my forehead with the straightener

 

That’s just what I can remember, but I am sure that there were more!  The most recent incident was at the ball park last week.  I went to my son’s baseball game and was walking toward the field when my phone rang.  I pulled it out of my back pocket and looked to see who was calling.  Since it was my husband, I answered.  As I put the phone to my ear, I heard what seemed like the whole ball field yelling “Heads Up!”  Those words always startle me, so I looked up to see if I could locate the ball.  Just about that time, that little white ball hit the ground in front of my feet.

Although it seems that I have many accidents and close calls, I completely believe that God is actively protecting me.  There are just too many times where I’ve walked away from accidents without a scratch.

So, what’s the big deal? God continually places His hand on my life. I see His evidence multiples times every day. These GodSTOPs, as I call them, are blessings from Jehovah Ro’i, the Lord, my Shepherd.

I’m so thankful for His marvelous protection and great grace!

~Belinda Jane

~You Are Going To Make It!!!~ By Marty

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~You are Going to Make it!!!~ By Marty

Last week I had the privilege of meeting with several women whose lives have been turned upside down and inside out. While listening to their stories of heartbreak, torment, and fatigue, I was also “hearing” the words to a well-known Christmas song in my heart entitled, “Do You Hear What I Hear?” Now, I’m well aware that this the wrong time of year to be listening to Christmas music, but I sensed that there was a deeper meaning as to why this song came to me…so I did a little research, here is what I found;

“Do You Hear What I Hear” is a song written in October of 1962 by Noel Regney and Gloria Shayne Baker.  Married at the time, they wrote it as a plea for peace during the Cuban Missile Crisis. In an interview years later, the couple stated that neither could personally perform the entire song at the time they wrote it because of the emotions surrounding the Cuban Missile Crisis. “Our little song broke us up. You must realize there was a threat of nuclear war at the time.” (Noland, Clair-2008-03-15 “pianist wrote music for holiday song-LA Times)

Why was I tuned in to this particular song, while sitting in a room full of broken hearted women? I believe that the Father heart of God was speaking to me in a much deeper way than I was able to comprehend at that moment….let me share with you what I sensed as I began to ponder and pray about this.

As someone who has personally come through much brokenness and devastation, I can relate to many women who have gone through, or are going through many of the same heartbreaking emotions that I did. To have your world blown up and crushed beyond recognition feels very much like a spiritual/emotional nuclear war…. there is the eminent danger of far reaching effects from the fall out of your shattered world. Our minds are often tormented with thoughts of rejection, fears, failures, hopelessness, and guilt. …PEACE seems so far away, if not completely unattainable.

“Do You Hear What I Hear”?  …I was hearing emotional explosives go off as each woman shared…even those precious women who, for whatever reason, chose not to speak…their unspoken words were still heard. My heart was bursting as I felt their pain, at the same time being acutely aware of God’s deep love and awareness for them. He will not, He cannot, leave them like this!

“Do You See What I see”?  …behind those painful expressions, bloodied, and broken, is a daughter, wife, mother, that’s meant to live, and make it!  A beloved BEAUTIFUL daughter! Full of gifts, talents, and abilities – someone with a name, a “one and only” fingerprint…someone who is worth believing in, investing in, praying for, encouraging, and supporting. Women who are valuable, accepted, and must be celebrated!

“Do You Know What I know”?  …The only way OUT of something is THROUGH it, and HOW we go through it will either make us or break us. There are ways we can choose to try and avoid the pain……drinking, drugs, sleeping, lying, cheating, stealing, food-binging, shopping – we can do any or all of those things, but sooner or later the grief that’s being avoided will show up, and dominate nearly every aspect of your life! ………….I’m here to tell you that there is HOPE, HEALING, and a BETTER way. You are so very valuable, and worth contending for!

Let’s take a one dollar bill, a fifty dollar bill, or even a one hundred dollar bill. …lets crumple it up, step on it, spit on it, and even tear it up….the value of that bill won’t change despite its appearance.

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YOUR VALUE TO GOD DOESN’T FLUCTUATE ACCORDING TO YOUR CURRENT SITUATION.

He will not discard us or throw us out because of our unclean, un-crisp, extremely dirty, messy (and messed up!) appearance. He takes us the way the way we are, and because of His OUTRAGEOUS LOVE for us…He restores us. I have experienced this myself! We are loved and valued more than we could ever know.

Let me leave you with this beautiful scripture verse and encourage you to run into His arms! Don’t hold back your tears and your pains….unload those heavy burdens to Him. I promise you that He hears you, and He will help you! Hear my heart, ladies.  We cannot do this on our own, we’re not meant to carry such weight!

Isaiah 42:3- He won’t brush aside the bruised and the hurt, He won’t disregard the small and insignificant, but He will steadily and firmly set things right. He won’t tire out and quit… (The Message)

For those who are reading this, and you cannot stop the tears, or calm your pounding heart…God is whispering your name…He sees you…. there is HOPE and HEALING for you!…New shoes to walk in, and new paths to travel on. Give Him access to those most painful places in your heart…..and experience the healing that comes when we allow Him to remove the sting from our pain.

You are going to make it!!!!!

Much love,

~Marty

Marty is passionate about encouragement and faith.  To contact her about speaking engagements, please email her at martymeyer.free@gmail.com

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~Forgiveness Journal~ By Faith

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~Forgiveness Journal~ By Faith

I was together with a friend a few months ago discussing a relationship that I knew needed redemption.  She encouraged me to do something that she lovingly calls a “forgiveness journal.” …I had good intentions but never carved out the time to do it.

Last week this “forgiveness journal” idea was presented to me again, and the healing that it has brought into my life has been incredible.

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Here’s how it works:

You start out by writing every offense, every frustration, every moment of anger that you can think of pertaining to a specific situation or relationship.

(I felt very shallow at times doing this, but I had to acknowledge all of my feelings.  After all, it’s not like I’m not hiding them from God.)

You then turn over the piece of paper and take ownership for your part in those frustrations, in taking offense, and in any wrong that you may have done towards them.

(Of course God would immediately want to bring humility to counterpart my judgment.)

At first I couldn’t really think of what I could take ownership for. Writing down all of the offenses brings back all of that emotion.

Then something magical happened!  As I started to take ownership for my part I realized that I had taken a false sense of responsibility for this person’s choices.

I realized that I was playing God in this person’s life – not by showing them unconditional love, but by carrying burdens that were never mine to carry.  I was taking on responsibility, frustrations, taking on the pressure of creating solutions…on and on!

It seemed so obvious to me all of the sudden that I was wasting time, precious energy, and really the whole purpose of this relationship by convincing myself that I had to take on this stress… which in turn led to my current pain…

The next step was to name the role of this person in my life and my role in theirs. This made it even more simple…not only did I not need to try to fix them, but I could actually enjoy freedom in celebrating them and loving them.

Matthew 11:28 asks, “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest.  Walk with me and work with me – watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” (Message Version)

Their life is between them and God, as my life is between me and God. He quickly showed me that my judgment was not helping them improve in any way. In fact, it was hindering what my role is in their life.

Titus 3:5-11 (Message Version)

“It wasn’t so long ago that we ourselves were stupid and stubborn, dupes of sin, ordered every which way by our glands, with a chip on our shoulder, hated and hating back. But when God, our kind and loving Savior God, stepped in, he saved us from all that. It was all his doing; we had nothing to do with it. He gave us a good bath, and we came out of it new people, washed inside and out by the Holy Spirit. Our Savior Jesus poured out new life so generously. God’s gift has restored our relationship with him and given us back our lives. And there’s more life to come – an eternity of life! You can count on this.”

Let’s enjoy the freedom that comes when we let God be God and enjoy the life that’s found when we extend His love and mercy to others.

If you know you have some people to forgive, try that “Forgiveness Journal.”  It’s a real eye opener and will help set you free!

~Faith